Let me first say this

I fell for the trap.  My children respectively are adults.  It has been a while since I was parent judgment baited in the question trap.  I really don’t know how else to word this, but if it has happened to you then you know what I mean.

Do let your kids watch R rated movies?

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That is an example of a trap to me.  I have four children all fairly close in age and I can’t tell how many times on the “playground” or other venues the shop talk would reverberate about a question like that when they were younger.  At church, all the answers were NO!  On the schoolyard, there were some parents that would mumble, “only if I am there with them”.  Regardless of the answers, there was always “that” group that judged you.  Judging people starts young people!  Little children are judgy and that carries on in their teenage and adult years.

Hence the trap

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You’re dammed if you do and you dammed it you don’t

I don’t want to ramble about this, but I just needed to vent.  Last night I was with friends at a gathering, did I mention my children are adults.  Sooooo, with that being said, the trap game I THOUGHT had stopped, but on occasion, it rears its ugly head and bites.

Did you spank your children?

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Now mind you I was enjoying myself, eating, drinking and talking shop with all of my friends when someone threw a nail in my tire.

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*Mic drop*

My head swirled to the lady asking the question and I smelled the trap and I took the bait.  “of course I did”, I said, ” I spanked their butts when they needed it”, I may have said it a bit rougher than that, but you get the idea.



Judgment in point 1 second

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Suddenly I am just as horrible in her eyes and the eyes have it a thug.  Judgment passed in .1 second.  “oh”, I said, ” I take you don’t spank, ever”?.  “No”, was the curt yet light reply.  You could almost smell the room change from friendly to hostile.

The moral of this story?

“Judge tenderly, if you must. There is usually a side you have not heard, a story you know nothing about, and a battle waged that you are not having to fight”

Traci Lea Larussa

Be careful when you ask questions to others and for Pete’s sake be careful when you answer.  Judgment never stops in life and it rears its ugly head just when you thought it was safe to live.

Have a great day people.  We only have one, let’s enjoy it!



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    1. Thanks for the reply and the lack of judgment. My kids are amazing and they are awesome parents as well and I judge you not either 🙂

  1. Ugh, I bet there’s judgement from those with and without kids, those who have and haven’t spanked their own children. What’s so stupid is there’s no rulebook or ‘best way’ to raise children, so there’s no right/wrong answer with things like this. You’re clearly an awesome mom and whatever you did you raised them well and that’s what counts! I think some people just like to judge for the sake of it and look down at others just because it makes them feel better about themselves.
    Caz xx

    1. Thank you. I have since this post talked to some more parents and it is a hot topic, but I just had to vent. You are right there is no book on the best way. Thank you so much and I love reading your blog. You’re amazing!

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