Let me first say this
I fell for the trap. My children respectively are adults. It has been a while since I was parent judgment baited in the question trap. I really don’t know how else to word this, but if it has happened to you then you know what I mean.
Do let your kids watch R rated movies?
That is an example of a trap to me. I have four children all fairly close in age and I can’t tell how many times on the “playground” or other venues the shop talk would reverberate about a question like that when they were younger. At church, all the answers were NO! On the schoolyard, there were some parents that would mumble, “only if I am there with them”. Regardless of the answers, there was always “that” group that judged you. Judging people starts young people! Little children are judgy and that carries on in their teenage and adult years.
Hence the trap
You’re dammed if you do and you dammed it you don’t
I don’t want to ramble about this, but I just needed to vent. Last night I was with friends at a gathering, did I mention my children are adults. Sooooo, with that being said, the trap game I THOUGHT had stopped, but on occasion, it rears its ugly head and bites.
Did you spank your children?
Now mind you I was enjoying myself, eating, drinking and talking shop with all of my friends when someone threw a nail in my tire.
My head swirled to the lady asking the question and I smelled the trap and I took the bait. “of course I did”, I said, ” I spanked their butts when they needed it”, I may have said it a bit rougher than that, but you get the idea.
Judgment in point 1 second
Suddenly I am just as horrible in her eyes and the eyes have it a thug. Judgment passed in .1 second. “oh”, I said, ” I take you don’t spank, ever”?. “No”, was the curt yet light reply. You could almost smell the room change from friendly to hostile.
The moral of this story?
“Judge tenderly, if you must. There is usually a side you have not heard, a story you know nothing about, and a battle waged that you are not having to fight”
Be careful when you ask questions to others and for Pete’s sake be careful when you answer. Judgment never stops in life and it rears its ugly head just when you thought it was safe to live.
Have a great day people. We only have one, let’s enjoy it!